Friday, XIX Week of Ordinary Time
(Matthew 19)
A generation ago a Protestant theologian stirred up controversy by writing a book on the sexuality of Jesus. He said that Jesus likely had a wife because marriage has always been highly valued in Jewish culture and nowhere do the gospels say that he was not married. In fact, the theologian argued that since most Jews in the first century married, the gospel writers just assumed that readers understood that Jesus was also married. Of course, the best-selling The Da Vinci Code created a much greater uproar by supposing Mary Magdalene to be Jesus’ wife.
Careful scholars, however, point to today’s gospel as a powerful argument against the likelihood that Jesus had a wife. When he talks about men renouncing marriage for the sake of the Kingdom of God, he most likely has himself in mind. After all, no one was more committed to establishing that Kingdom than he. It is also telling that when Jesus is confronted by his mother and other family members, nothing is said about a wife being with them.
Of course, just because Jesus was celibate, not all workers of the Kingdom must be so. Priests, for example, might be allowed to marry. This seems to have been the general practice in the first millennium of Christianity and perhaps it will resume at some point in the third. We have all heard several reasonable arguments to change the practice. Yet celibacy is an invaluable counter-sign in a world that greatly exaggerates sexuality. Priests and religious vowing to forego a wife or husband and family tell the world that there is a value more important than personal satisfaction. Indeed, their living the vow with integrity and happiness indicates that God’s Kingdom will exceed all human desires.
