Friday, June 14, 2019

Friday of the Tenth Week in Ordinary Time

(II Corinthians 4:7-15; Matthew 5:27-32)

Lust may be the most problematic of the vices.  Yet it is not the most serious.  Indeed, Thomas Aquinas calls it the least offensive of the capital sins because it is the most natural.  This does not mean it is not harmful nor matter of mortal sin.  Quite puzzlingly in very recent times sociologists have discovered that Americans are less likely to have sexual relations than at other times since the sixties.  Evidently youth are substituting pornography and masturbation for sexual intercourse.  What might we derive from today’s gospel about this disturbing tendency?

Of course, Jesus makes here the provocative statement that anyone who looks at a woman with lust commits adultery.  The reference to sinning with one’s hand also hints of sexual offense.  The description of divorce and remarriage should likewise be considered as sexual deviance. 

With all these sexual matters we might think that Jesus frowns upon sexual intimacy.  But this way of thinking is simply not true.  Jesus and, certainly, the Church value sexual relations greatly.  They both deepen the love of marriage partners as well as facilitate the growth of the human family.  But we must be sure in our understanding of sexual intimacy.  It is for married couples and is not to be done primarily for pleasure but out of mutual love.

Friday, June 15, 2018

Friday of the Tenth Week in Ordinary Time

(1 Kings 19:9a.11-16; Matthew 5:27-32)

Of the longings of the human heart sexual desire takes a primary place.   Beyond intimacy, men want to dominate women and to use them for self-propagation.  Women seek to manipulate men for protection and for children to mother.  Jesus addresses this mutual exploitation with his commandments in today’s gospel.

Once again Jesus calls for a change of heart.  His disciples have to avoid lust, the inordinate desire for sexual pleasure.  Desire becomes inordinate when one seeks sexual relations with someone other than his wife or her husband.  Desire also looms inordinate when it views one’s wife or husband as an object for sexual pleasure.  As Jesus’ instruction on divorce indicates, spouses are to cherish one another.  Marriage commits two people to love one another in order to raise children in the likeness of God.

Jesus equating lust with adultery has caused many people to feel a burden of guilt. Is such guilt warranted?  We think so.  It is not that we want people to feel bad about themselves.  To the contrary, we want people to feel accomplished by foregoing pernicious desires.  Lust can lead people beyond adultery to abandonment of family.   By itself, it redirects a person from his or her primary responsibilities to dwell on fantasies.  Although painful, guilt moves one to repentance.  It is part of the journey to holiness.

Friday, June 16, 2017

Friday of the Tenth Week in Ordinary Time

(II Corinthians 4:7-15; Matthew 5:27-32)

Pope Francis has been accused of creating confusion over today’s gospel message.  Noting the possibility of divorced and remarried persons receiving Communion in Orthodox churches, Francis floated the idea to the synod of bishops meeting two years ago in Rome.  It cannot be said with complete candor that just because Jesus in the gospel forbids marriage of divorced people, that it is absolutely impossible.  After all, in the very next section of the Sermon on the Mount he forbids the taking of oaths.  Yet presidents and peons have sworn in the name of God.

But divorce affects life at its deepest levels.  It ends a relationship where two people by word and deed have promised lifelong fidelity.  It often leaves children in desperation.  Moreover, as Christian marriage is a sacrament expressing Christ’s love for the Church, divorce becomes a countersign of that love.  Furthermore, the proscription of divorce has been the perpetual practice of the Church since antiquity.

Of course, Francis only wanted to exhibit God’s mercy.  Many innocent people have been adversely affected by divorce, and many divorced persons have undergone significant conversions.  Life’s contingencies do not always neat solutions to these situations.  Yet Francis eventually yielded to the majority opinion of the synod.  In his apostolic exhortation The Joy of Love he restates the traditional teaching of the Church with some pastoral recommendations. 

Friday, June 14, 2013

Friday of the Tenth Week in Ordinary Time

(II Corinthians 4:7-15; Matthew 5:27-32)

Summertime brings people to the beach.  Men typically go to look at women and women go to be looked at – both groups with lust in their hearts.  Jesus addresses the situation in today’s gospel.

After he posts the great rewards for his followers in the beatitudes and gives a few images of encouragement, Jesus presents himself as Lord refining the law given to the Israelites at Sinai.  He tells the New Israel that they sin not just by committing adultery but by desiring it in their hearts.  Only by transcending such desires, which amount to idolatry, will they be able to see the true God.

Girl-watching (and boy-watching as well) seems like a pastime innocuous enough that we may not want to comment upon it.  Yet it counters Jesus’ teaching and instrumentalizes human beings. We need to model modesty as well as give each person his or her due respect.  We should also exhort youth when there is a chance of being heard to practice self-control over what they look at and what they think.